Guard Your Virginity

14 December 2014 am – Genesis 34:1-31 – Gen 14 – Scott Childs

Introduction: Time was passing quickly. About 10 years had passed since Jacob left Haran. His youngest children, Joseph and Dinah were probably about 16 years old. His oldest boys would have been about 22-23. The chapter opens abruptly by telling us that Dinah, Jacob’s teenage daughter went out to see the daughters of the land. In doing so, she met a young man named Shechem who lived in Shechem.

Transition: This morning we are going to see what happened when a teenage girl lost her virginity and her brothers lost their temper. As we do, we will find many lessons from which we can learn.

1.        Dinah Lost Her Virginity

a.         Loss of virginity is usually a process

1)         Jacob failed to cultivate godly character in Dinah’s life.

O  God holds fathers responsible for rearing their boys and girls in a godly manner. Godly character is not something they will catch in one lesson. It takes time. Answer their questions. Warn them of dangers. Set godly limits. Hold them accountable. This is no time to be embarrassed. If you do not speak up the devil will!

V   (Ephesians 6:4) “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”

2)         Leah failed to teach Dinah the value of keeping her purity. Young ladies who lose their virginity often fail to dress modestly. God tells us that men are attracted by the immodesty of women.

V   (Matthew 5:28) “But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.”

O  Mums, you have the challenging task of being a modest example and teaching your daughters how and why to dress modestly and how to guard their virginity. Men, help your ladies understand the importance of modesty.

3)         Dinah was wrong for going to see the daughters of the land. The ungodly girlfriends of Shechem were not a good influence on her life.

a)         If Jacob gave her permission to go, he was acting foolishly.

b)         If Dinah went without permission, she was being rebellious.

c)         The Bible does not say if she went just once, but it implies that she often visited them.

O  The friends you choose have a powerful influence on you. Peer pressure is unbelievably strong. It is far better not to have friends than to have friends who are living ungodly lives.

V   (Proverbs 13:20) “He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.”

V   (1 Corinthians 15:33) “Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.”

O  Usually, loss of virginity begins in the thoughts of the heart. Satan tempts us to think sin is not that bad, once won’t hurt, I will just try a little, and no one will know. He is lying.

V   (Proverbs 4:23) “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.”

V   (Proverbs 23:7) “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: …”

V   (Mark 7:21) “For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders,”

V   (Psalms 44:21) “Shall not God search this out? for he knoweth the secrets of the heart.”

b.         Dinah and Shechem committed fornication.

1)         Many commentators think that Shechem forced her to sin, but the Bible does not say. Whether Dinah was willing or resisted, her sexual intimacy with Shechem was sinful.

2)         Because the Bible says that Shechem loved Dinah (v.3), he sought to marry her (v.4), and after their sin, she was living at his house (v.26), I do not think he forced her into sin. It is more likely that a close friendship between Dinah and Shechem had led into this sexual sin.

3)         If this was true, Dinah had made several major mistakes.

a)         She made close friends with ungodly young people.

b)         Peer pressure of ungodly girlfriends weakened her.

c)         She gave her heart to an unbelieving young man.

d)         She hid her lustful friendship from her parents.

e)         She let down her guard – spent time alone with her boyfriend, holding hands, touching, kissing.

O  Young people do not be deceived. These steps always lead to loss of a pure heart and clean mind and often lead to loss of virginity. In addition, they always lead to guilt and heartache. Do not follow these steps. Do not let Satan tell you that you are the exception to the rule. He is a liar.

V   (Galatians 6:7-8) “Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting”.

2.        Dinah’s Brothers Made a Deal with Shechem

a.         Shechem approached both fathers

1)         He asked his father if he could marry Dinah (v.4).

2)         He asked Dinah’s father if he could marry her (v.11).

a)         While it is right to get the fathers’ permission when seeking a wife, he should not have committed fornication first.

b)         If he had asked first, Jacob could have stopped the relationship before it caused grief.

b.         Jacob’s sons deceive Shechem and Hamor

1)         They claimed that lack of circumcision was the reason Dinah could not marry Shechem (v.14). While there was some truth in that statement, circumcision did not give a person faith in the living God. Circumcision was an outward identification of God’s people but only faith in God would make them righteous.

2)         They required that the men of the city of Shechem all be circumcised before any marriages could take place (v.15-17).

3)         The words pleased them and they convinced the men of the city to be circumcised (v.18-24).

O  This again reminds us that a true relationship with God is far more than outward ceremony or religion. If you are a true Christian, it is not because you were reared in a Christian home. It is not because you were baptised and confirmed in a church. Biblical Christianity does not change a person from the outside in but from the inside out.

V   (Romans 10:10) “For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.”

V   (Ephesians 3:17) “That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in love,”

3.        Simeon and Levi Become Murderers

a.         They killed all the men of the city (v.25-29)

1)         While the men of the city were still sore from being circumcised, they were unable to defend themselves.

2)         Simeon and Levi marched into the city boldly, killed all the helpless men, and robbed the city.

3)         While the sin of fornication with their sister was wrong, it did not justify this terrible reaction.

b.         Jacob was troubled and burdened (v.30)

1)         Jacob knew that news of this wicked destruction would travel and he feared the Canaanites in the area would attack him.

2)         While his concern was genuine, God overruled and protected him.

O  Anger is a terrible thing. It causes people to do foolish and wicked things without thinking clearly. If someone does something bad to us, we must stay calm and seek the Lord’s wisdom to know what we should do. Angry revenge often results in agonizing regret.

Conclusion: Parents, are you developing purity in your children, answering questions, teaching modesty, guiding their choice of friends, and helping them guard their virginity? There is no time to waste!

Young people, are you guarding your virginity by guarding your mind, your friendships, your modesty, and your conduct? Lust is very powerful, but if you have a flourishing relationship with God, you can keep yourself a pure virgin until marriage.

Song: Yield Not to Temptation – 364